ARGUING EQUALITY An Interactive Web Guide To Understanding
And Presenting The Case For Same-Sex Marriage

The High Cost of Marriage Inequality

Cost of Marriage Inequality
Source: insurance quotes online.
August 22nd, 2012 |


One last post for the evening 🙂  I want to thank two people for helping me with this site. First. my brother-in-law, Brandon, who taught me about SEO and the power of the web. His Atlanta fence company,, is impressive. If you live in Georgia, check it out.  Second, to my sister, Claire, who inspired me to write Arguing Equality. Her wedding ring site serves the gay community proudly. If you are getting married, keep in mind!.
January 20th, 2009 |

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The Site

So, what is  When I was in law school, I wrote a booklet, Arguing Equality, in which I attempted to lay out arguments in favor of gay marriage. After graduating, I moved down to Atlanta, Georgia, and not so long after that became involved in fighting an anti-gay Constitutional Amendment in the Georgia House defining marriage as between a man and a woman. The results of the vote were a foregone conclusion – it is Georgia, of course, and we didn’t have a chance. But it gave us an opportunity to start a long and arduous process of educating the public about gay marriage rights. At the time, I was the Volunteer Coordinator for our statewide lgbt organization, Georgia Equality, and still had my book, Arguing Equality, which I had not yet published. So, we decided to publish two thousand copies of the booklet and distribute it  free to volunteers statewide as a learning tool. I’m proud to say that the booklet was well-received, and I got dozens of emails from gay activists throughout Georgia thanking me and Georgia Equality for the booklet. I even had one lesbian couple drive three hours to Atlanta to pick up two dozen copies of the book, which they distributed at their wedding! So, rather than publish Arguing Equality in a traditional manner, I decided that it could be a lot more effective, and reach a much larger audience, online. It’s published chapter by chapter on the homepage, and while I think it needs a good deal of work, I hope you find it useful. Let me know!.
January 20th, 2009 |


My Purpose

I set this site and blog up long ago, but until now did not truly commit to use it. Blogging is a lot of work, I guess, but more than that, as I got older, I found my fire for our cause had dwindled. I was passionate about fighting for my rights years ago, but my passion was diluted by my career and social life, and more than that, I think I got used to the idea of being a second-class citizen. What infuriated me in my youth became something that, sadly, I learned to live with rather than fight against.  The evolution was not for the better. While my passion dwindled, I had continued to be involved with the gay activist community, although not at the grass-roots level I had been used to.  Lately, though, I joined the Board of Directors of YouthPride, an Atlanta charity that serves lgbt youth and provides them with a safe space. It’s helped me remember the difficulties I faced growing up, and how different my adolescence could have been if I did not grow up in shame. I’m grateful for that. So, I’ve recommited myself to get back on track, to fighting for the cause I’m most passionate about, and to hopefully inspire others to get involved as well. Let’s see how it goes 😉.
January 20th, 2009 |

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President Obama's "Big Tent"

When Obama asked Rick Warren to deliver his inauguration speech, it caused quite a stir.  And rightly so.  While the President-elect wants desperately to prove that his administration will cross party lines, his choice conveyed the wrong message.  Rick Warren is most notable for his extreme and polarizing anti-gay support of California’s Proposition 8.   The result is that Obama’s choice did not convey the message that his presidency will include Democrats and Republicans alike, it sent the message that his presidency will include gays and gay-haters alike. Disappointing..
January 19th, 2009 |

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Gay Marriage and Divorce

I hear all the time about gay marriage bringing about the downfall of the entire marital institution. Of course, in the past all we had to go by were foreign countries who legalized gay marriage, with no affect on the institution at all. We never had, until recently, an American example. With the legalization of gay marriage in Massachusetts and New Jersey, of course, this has changed. So, what have the effects of gay marriage been in those states? Massachusetts provides the best example, because as opposed to New Jersey which just recently legalized the rights of gays and lesbians to marry, Massachusetts legalized it long ago. And, interesting, Massachusetts has one of the lowest divorce rates in the country!  Furthermore, there has been no sign whatsoever that marriages in Massachusetts (again, with one of the lowest divorce rates in the nation) have suffered at all. It makes a strong point, and, I believe, as gay marriage is legalized in other states, the point will be made loud and clear: the insitution of marriage is in no way, shape or form, threatened by allowing gays and lesbians to take part in it..
October 21st, 2008 |

California Here We Come

The upcoming Presidential Election has been dominating the news lately, but on election day, there will be a crucial event for gay marriage. In California, voters will either affirm or deny the rights of gay people to marry. Of course, gay couples in California have been permitted to vote now as a result of the Supreme Court of Calofornia’s decision to legalize gay marriage, but gay marriage opponents are seeking to amend the state Constition, which would overturn the Supreme Court decision. A similar measure passed in Hawaii when the Hawaii Supreme Court ruled in favor of gay marriage. If you have not already done so, please get involved! Gay marriage is now legal in Connecticut and Massachusetts, by court order. If California defeats the anti-gay marriage resolution, it will be the first state in the union not only to legalize gay marriage, but also to do so through a vote of the mjority of the people. A historic vote, and a historic day for our community..
October 21st, 2008 |